bridesmaids have no formal duties but to assist the bride wherever
they can. They attend pre wedding parties with the bride and in
most cases give one for her. They meet at the bride's home the
morning of the wedding to dress and receive their bouquets. In
the procession they follow the chief bridesmaid entering and leaving
the church. During the ceremony they stand at the bride's side,
behind the chief bridesmaid. After the wedding cake has been cut
sometimes the bridesmaid's serve it to the guests.
choice of bridesmaid's will be governed by many factors, the major
one being family considerations. If the bride has sisters then
they will be the obvious choice, however if they are very young
this will preclude them from the roll as brides maids, but they
will be ideal candidates for flower girls.
factor is the scale of the wedding, if you plan a grand affair
with more that two brides maids, it is unlikely that you will
have sufficient sisters to fill all the vacancies so to speak,
so she will have to enlist cousins or perhaps colleagues from
has to be considered also is personalities, it is a regrettable
fact of life that we don't all get on together, what you positively
don't want is personality clashes within your wedding party.
must choose carefully, during the run up to your wedding you will
need the help and support of your brides maids, particularly the
chief maid. If you choose a busy career girl she may not have
the time to assist you in many tasks associated with planning
will be visiting bridal salons, florists, transport companies
etc. Attending fitting sessions, it really does consume a considerable
amount of time. Having said that with the advent of the Internet
a lot of the leg work can be eliminated as most of you wedding
vendors are now on line and only a click away. From this site
you can access over one thousand wedding related suppliers.
chief bridesmaid has no formal duties, although it is usually
her who organizes the hen night with the input of the other female
members of the party. She is expected to assist you in your preparations
for the wedding. Including helping with the fittings for the bridesmaid's
dresses and accessories, as well as her own. She assists with
the invitations and gifts. She attends all the pre-wedding parties
with the bride and looks after the bridesmaids before and during
the wedding day. Her and the best man are usually called upon
to be witnesses.
the day she helps the bride to dress and holds her bouquet during
the ceremony. She usually stands beside the groom in the receiving
line and sits at the top table. She may help the bride change
if the bride wishes. She and the best man should liaise together
to ensure the smooth running of the whole affair.
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important to choose well when it comes to the best man. The
grooms best friend or perhaps his brother are the obvious choices.
Whoever is chosen they must be totally reliable, dependable and
be capable of diplomatically organizing the ushers, to ensure the
smooth running of the whole affair on your big day. The best man's
duties are described on this page so we
don't need to go into them here
is absolutely no doubt that the presence of flower girls among your
attendants adds immensely to the charm and ambiance of the occasion.
You may have a little sister or perhaps a niece, and wouldn't they
just love to dress up for the occasion, and bask in the limelight
and glory of what will, in all possibility seem to the a fairy tale
occasion, and hopefully you will feel exactly the same.
with flower girls page boy's add that something extra to the proceeding's,
again if either of your families have candidates of an appropriate
age , and your budget can stretch to it then why not give it a go.
Page boy's can look especially well in a uniform be it that of a
sailor, or perhaps a clan tartan, if there is some family connection
with uniform, then this may be a possibility you would like to consider.
are normally two ushers at a wedding, one from the family of the
bride and the other from that of the groom. The reason being that
each are familiar with their own family members. The seating arrangements
should be decided prior to the service and the ushers briefed
as to where the guests are to be seated.
main duty's are to hand out the order of service sheets to the
guests as they arrive for the service and to implement as far
as possible the seating plan. They will be expected also to assist
with any task which will contribute to the smooth running of the
They are usually directed by the best man on behalf of the groom.
father of the bride is the official host at the wedding and gives
the bride away during the ceremony. In the church he sits beside
his wife in the front pew, after the ceremony he escorts the groom's
mother when leaving the church. He greets the guests first in the
receiving line at the reception. He is the first to make a speech,
and toasts the bride and groom.
bride's mother is the official hostess at the wedding, and assists
the bride in matters relating to organizing the wedding, including
arranging the ceremony and reception, organizing the guest list
and all the myriad things that need attended to when planning
a wedding. She should involve the groom's mother in organizing
the guest list, and they should liaise together regarding their
outfits for the ceremony.
the church she is seated in the left pew at the front of the church,
she is the last person to be seated before the ceremony. And she
is the first person to leave being escorted out (by the groom's
father) when the ceremony is concluded.
greeting the guests at the reception she should be the first person
in the receiving line. It usually falls to her to send our wedding
cake to relatives who were unable to attend the wedding.
groom's parents are considered honoured guests at the wedding. The
groom's father dresses in accordance with the rest of the wedding
party. They may give a special wedding gift to the bride. They are
seated in the front pew on the right of the church and are usually
seated just before the bride's mother takes her seat. They are included
in the receiving line at the reception. It is customary for them
to send a thank you note to the bride's mother (who is the official
hostess) after the wedding.
of honour is simply a title used to describe a person who is married,
and is carrying out the role of chief bridesmaid.